This is what my family tells the hostess as we arrive at restaurants. Just four. I have always considered myself blessed with having two children, one boy and one girl. It falls into my idea of the perfect family with a happy marriage, two kids, and the white picket fence. OK, so we don't have that picket fence, but work with me!
As I was reading one of my novels the other day the author made a comment about how "three is the new two" when it comes to kids. The phrase kind of stuck in my head and then I read this article which linked to this and now I realize that it wasn't just a random phrase. It really seems that there is an increase in families having 3 kids instead of just the 2. So what does this mean for me and my perfect family. Well frankly, nothing!
I am proud to say that I have absolutely no desire to have another. First of all, I am probably the worst pregnant women there is. I cannot understand all of those that say they are the happiest when they are pregnant because they feel so alive. I don't get it. I immediately get high blood pressure, have to see the doctor every two weeks from the first appointment, have ultrasounds multiple time, and the cute maternity clothes NEVER fit. Perhaps turning 30 this year also has something to do with it. I always said I wanted my children before I turned 30. My 20's were especially fulfilling as I got married, moved away from home to the beach, we bought our first house, had the kids, earned two college degrees, and began teaching. Yeah, things were kinda crazy. I guess I'm looking forward to spending my 30's just kind of coasting along. Well if coasting is what you call it when you are raising two kids, teaching full time, and trying to pay off debt while beginning college funds and retirement plans.
Don't get me wrong though. I absolutely adore babies, especially my new niece. It's just that I can look at babies, hold them, cuddle them, and enjoy their smell, but not feel one tug from my uterus. Nope. Nothing.
Booths are made for 4, cars are made for 4, rides are made for 4 (well technically 2, but X2 and you have 4), and we have a 1-1 parent/child ratio not to mention are evenly divided boys and girls. So no thanks. Three being the new two doesn't mean anything to me.
I still believe that a family of four is the perfect number!